Old Habit Dies Hard

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh, old habit dies hard... 

Being nice when people are rude to you is the best of treatment... 

It is challenging but slowly but surely, it can be done...

If not, the chain of hatred would continue on and on...

It should stop somewhere and it should stop with ourselves...

Pity Me

Self-pity or "feeling sorry for oneself" is the psychological state of mind of an individual in perceived adverse situations who has not accepted the situation and does not have the confidence nor ability to cope with it. 

It is characterized by a person's belief that he or she is the victim of events and is therefore deserving of condolence.

 

Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world.
~ Helen Keller

 

Sometimes, you just need to whine a bit to take frustrations out of your system...

But the key is not to succumb to all those whining...

Be strong, and focus on the other aspect of life...

We humans are weak, we just need to keep on reminding ourselves from time to time, that's all...

Well She...

Boy: I broke up with her.
His Best Friend:What happened?

Boy: She’s just too much for me.
His Best Friend:What makes you say that? What did she do wrong?

Boy: Well, for one… She only cared about her appearance. Always had to look good, always took forever to get dressed! So insecure…
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she wanted to keep your eyes locked on her? She wanted you to see that you have the prettiest girl under your sleeve and not think otherwise? I see…

Boy: She’d often call me or text me asking where I am, who I’m with, telling me not to smoke, not to drink. She’s so clingy!
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she cares about your well being? Because she cares about you a lot? And her greatest fear is losing you. I see…

Boy: But she’d always cry when I say something slightly mean. She can’t handle anything. She’s a crybaby!
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she has feelings? And because she just wanted to hear you say you love her? I see…

Boy: You know, she’d get jealous easily. I could barely talk to other girls! She’s so annoying! I had to hide it from her so she wouldn’t bitch about it.
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she just wanted you to commit to her? She thought you were faithful, but you lied so she could find out later and hurt even more? She just wanted the guy she loves the most to love only her. I see…

Boy: Well, she…
His Best Friend: You broke up with her because she’s good for you? She just wanted the best for you? She’s broken now because you were selfish. Are you proud?

Boy: I broke her heart.. Because I couldn’t see what was happening.. What happened to me?
His Best Friend: You lost the girl that loved you like no one else could. You see? You didn’t want her when all she ever wanted was you. That’s what happened.

Why Do We Shout?

One day, a professor asked his students 'Why do we SHOUT instead of speak when we are ANGRY?'

All the students thought for a while. One answered 'Because we lost our cool. That's why we SHOUT.'

Asked the professor again, 'But the person is just right next to you, why can't we talk softly but have to SHOUT?'

Everyone gave their opinions but none was accepted by the professor.

Lastly explained by the professor 'When we are ANGRY, our hearts drift apart. To mask the DISTANCE we felt, we instinctively SHOUT instead of speak so the other party can hear us.'
 
'But as we SHOUT, we get ANGRIER. And we felt we drift apart further. So we SHOUT even louder...'

'It is the opposite when we are in love. Not only we do not shout, we whisper into each other ears. Why?'

'This is because our hearts are very close, almost never apart. As our love deepen, we reach a state of communication where there is no need for words.'

'We understand each other well enough just by exchanging look,' concluded the professor.

'Therefore, when we are arguing, DO NOT speak words that will make our hearts drift apart. WAIT a few days. When you feel your hearts are no longer far apart, pick up the conversation and continue from there.'